Female dominance (or femdom) is those BDSM relationships and BDSM scenes in which the dominant partner is female. Often a dominant woman, she may prefer to be called a, Femdomme, Domina, or Dominatrix, depending on context or personal preference. A female dominant in a master/slave relationship is often termed a Mistress, not to be confused with the colloquial usage of mistress as a kept sexual partner without a similarly formalized power relationship.
Generally, the activities of a Mistress would consist of anything from role reversal to more extreme acts of BDSM such as torture.
As with other BDSM orientations, there are no predefined set of activities that necessarily fall within the sphere of female dominance. Typically, the female dominant determines the actual activities within the context of a consensual encounter.
Activities can include strap-on dildo penetration (pegging), in which the dominant partner performs anal sex on the submissive partner, face sitting or smothering, which both tend to focus on the submissive partner giving the dominant partner cunnilingus, or in some instances “forced” feminization of a male partner. The dominant female may also have the submissive male perform acts of fellatio on her strap-on dildo or even engage in either vaginal or anal intercourse after which felching would be performed by the male. In addition to this the female (having full control of the situation) could engage in intercourse with other men or women and force the male to watch or date on her own, and again engage in felching from the other men.
Female submission describes a relationship in which a female submits to usually the dominance of a man. The submission can be voluntary and consensual or may be obtained as a result of rape or duress. The dominant partner is usually a man, but could also be another woman, or more than one person. The term “female submission” most commonly refers to a woman who derives sexual pleasure from the act of submission to men, the pleasure arising passively, incidentally, as a side-effect of the practice of submission to a man.
Submission can take the form of passivity or obedience in relation to any aspect of conduct and behaviour. Submission can be to a partner in an interpersonal relationship, such as allowing the sex partner to initiate all sexual activity as well as setting the time and place and sex position. It can also be in relation to the type of sexual activity that the partners will engage in, including non-conventional sex such as anal sex, or BDSM or sexual roleplay. Some sex positions, such as doggy style, require for a woman to be passive and submissive while an active sex partner performs sex acts on her. Obedience may be a part of a sexual roleplay or activity, and can also be in the relation to the style of dress, if any, or behavior or any other manner. In fact, any act that is performed on a passive woman, such as undressing her, may be regarded as submissive behaviour on the part of the woman.
Submission may be manifested in a multitude of ways whereby a woman relinquishes sexual or personal control to another, such as acts of servitude, submission to humiliation or punishment such as erotic spanking, or other activities, at times in association with bondage. The level and type of submission can vary from person to person, and from one time to another. Some women choose to include occasional sexual submission in an otherwise conventional sex life. For example, a woman may adopt a submissive role during a sexual activity to overcome a sexual inhibition she may have. A woman may choose to submit full time, becoming a lifestyle slave.
Some people derive erotic pleasure from the submissiveness of a sex partner, which they may regard as a turn-on; and some people regard obvious passivity as a form of feminine flirting or seduction. Some women sexually submit to the sexual wishes of their partner for the pleasure of the partner, which may itself result in sexual pleasure for the submissive woman. Some feminist writers argue that female sexual submission can amount to sexual objectification.
When female subservience occurs as a consequence of a social system in which males, either as fathers or husbands hold legal or de facto authority and power over related women, children, and household property, the arrangement is generally known as patriarchy and has historically been the norm in nearly all human cultures.